The walking wounded. I see them every day, emotionally spent, tired of trying, and ready to give up. Physically, stress has taken its toll on their bodies and they are overwhelmed by the demands of others. Because of their kind and giving nature, they are the ones that others rely on and constantly turn to. And it never ends until one day it’s just too much – they break.
This is how good people go bad. They walk out on their relationships, their jobs, they make poor choices….sometimes they close their hearts….all because they thought that God expected all this “doing” of them.
A crucial part of our healing is to recognize that God does not expect this of us. He asks only that we put Him first in our lives and love each another. It’s really just that simple. When we love and honor God with our lives, then the “doing” comes from an overflow, not an empty, broken vessel.
God wants only the best for his children. He does not want us to exhaust ourselves to the point of mental and physical breakdown in order to gain his approval. We make it difficult. We forget the price for our imperfection has already been paid. We need only accept this gift and rest in His grace.
Jan Johnson reminds us of this:
” Life is a journey of coming to know God, not achieving or gaining others approval. Letting go is both too simple and too difficult. It looks like weakness instead of strength, like losing instead of winning,..yet it is in responding to God’s call to surrender that forces me to value my brokeness as well as my strength.”
As children of God, we can be assured that we are cherished and loved. We don’t have to earn God’s love, nor do we need to punish ourselves by rushing and working and worrying ourselves to the point of collapse to prove that we are enough. God has already said that we are.
Here is a statement that changed my life. Repeat this out loud until you believe it: Who I am in Christ is more important than anything I could ever do for him.